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The myth of the concentration oasis

February 11, 2009 in Blogs, Mind Hacks by Vaughan

Wired has an interview with author Maggie Jackson who’s recently written a book called ‘Distracted: The Erosion of Attention and the Coming Dark Age’ in which she argues modern life and digital technology constantly demand our attention and are consequently damaging our ability to concentrate and be creative. The trouble is, I just don’t buy it and it’s easy to see why. The ‘modern technology is hurting our brain’ argument is widespread but it seems so short-sighted. It’s based on the idea that before digital communication technology came along, people spent their time focusing on single tasks for hours on end and were rarely distracted. The trouble is, it’s plainly rubbish, and you just have to spend time with some low tech communities to see this is the case. In some of the poorer neighbourhoods Medellín, my current city of residence, there is no electricity. In these barrios, computers, the internet, and even washing machines and telephones don’t exist in the average home. Pretty much everything is done manually. By the lights of the ‘driven to digital distraction’ argument, the residents should be able to live blissfully focused distraction-free lives, but they don’t. If you think twitter is an attention magnet, try living with an infant. Kids are the most distracting thing there is and when you have three of even four in the house it is both impossible to focus on one thing, and stressful, because the consequences of not keeping an eye on your kids can be frightening even to think about. The manual nature of all the tasks means you have to watch everything. There is no timer on the cooker, so you need to watch the food. The washing has to be done, by hand, while keeping an eye on everything else. People call all the time, because, well, there is no other way of communication. Street vendors pass by the house and shout what they’re selling. If you miss out on something, it might mean your days food planning has gone down the drain. On top of this, people may be working to make a living in the same building. Running a shop, mending stuff, selling food, or whatever their business might be. The difference between this, and the “oh isn’t email stressful” situation, is that you can take a break from email and phone calls. You can switch everything off for an hour so you can concentrate. You can tell people you won’t be available. For people trying to work and run a family at the same time, not only are the consequences of missing something more important and potentially more dangerous, but it’s impossible to take a break. A break means your kids are in danger, your family doesn’t get fed and you’re losing money that buys the food. Now, think about the fact that the majority of the world live just like this, and not in not in the world of email, tweets and instant messaging. Until about 100 years ago everyone lived like this. In other words, the ability to focus on a single task, relatively uninterrupted, is the strange anomaly in the history of our psychological development. New technology has not created some sort of unnatural cyber-world, but is just moving us away from a relatively short blip of focus that pervaded parts of the Western world for probably about 50 years at most. And when we compare the level of stress and distraction it causes in comparison to the life of the average low-tech family, it’s nothing. It actually allows us to focus, because it makes things less urgent, it controls the consequences and allows us to suffer no more than social indignation if we don’t respond immediately. The past, and for most people on the planet, the present, have never been an oasis of mental calm and creativity. And anyone who thinks they have it hard because people keep emailing them should trying bringing up a room of kids with nothing but two pairs of hands and a cooking pot. Link to Wired interview with short-sighted digital doomsayer.

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Buck Rogers is not a blueprint

February 10, 2009 in Blogs, Mind Hacks by Vaughan

A quote from a recent Wired article that discusses a project to create a computer architecture based on the neurobiology of the brain. It sounds suspiciously like it’s based on Dr Theopolis from 70s TV series Buck Rogers in the 25th Century : In what could be one of the most ambitious computing projects ever, neuroscientists, computer engineers and psychologists are coming together in a bid to create an entirely new computing architecture that can simulate the brain’s abilities for perception, interaction and cognition. All that, while being small enough to fit into a lunch box and consuming extremely small amounts of power. Just because you didn’t mention Buck Rogers in the grant application, it doesn’t mean we don’t know what you’re up to. I mean, I’d love to recreate the magic of ‘Planet of the Amazon Women’ too, but you’ll need more than a fully conscious cognitively aware AI than runs off two AA batteries. If you’re completely mystified, and / or under the age of 30, you may want to check out this clip on YouTube. Dr Theopolis is the, er, lunch box like-AI on the table. He usually hangs round the neck of the annoying android Twiki. On a slightly more serious note, I just checked out Kwabena Boahen’s Stanford talk where he discusses exactly this sort of project to create neurally inspired computer chips. Definitely worth a look. Link to Wired article on cognitive computing. Link to Kwabena Boahen’s talk on neurally inspired chips.

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Are There More Shopaholics Who Want to Confess?

February 7, 2009 in Blogs, Psychology Today by Psychology Today

To Buy or Not To Buy – it’s a question we ask and answer almost every day, and sometimes multiple times a day. For many people, it doesn’t cause a lot of inner turmoil, but for compulsive buyers, it’s a high stakes question, and an affirmative answer can be devastating. Long trivialized as the "smiled-upon" addiction, thankfully, compulsive buying is coming farther and farther out of the closet, and the release next Friday of Confessions of a Shopaholic is bringing the problem into the limelight. We have reason to believe it’s becoming more prevalent. A study reported in the October 2006 issue of the American Journal of Psychiatry suggested that about 5.8% of the U.S. population- more than fifteen million Americans -are compulsive buyers. A more recent study, published in the December, 2008 issue of the Journal of Consumer Research suggests that the number may be closer to 8.9%, more than 25 million Americans. And now with the economic crisis, compulsive shoppers are feeling squeezed. Some are unable to resist prices which have been slashed to the bone in the hope of luring reluctant consumers. Others, fearing for their long term job stability, are using the recession as the boost they needed to become more mindful about their spending. And between these two poles, there are a multitude of other responses that overshoppers are having to the current economic downturn, ranging from denial to absolute panic. When we think "addiction," what first comes to mind is most likely alcohol or drugs or eating disorders. Even though we know that shopping, when done to excess, can spin dangerously out of control, shopping is still seen by many as superficial, light fare. Strongly reinforced by society, shopping has become the classic mixed-message behavior. On the one hand, it’s promoted endlessly (and to the ends of the earth) by those who profit from it. On the other hand, it’s regularly the stuff of jokes. Shoppers are portrayed as self-involved, materialistic, and empty. As a result, compulsive shopping may be an even greater source of guilt and shame than alcoholism or drug abuse, which are seen as bona fide disorders, requiring treatment. So why the mixed-messages? Given the fact that consumption fuels our economy, in order to promote the ceaseless stoking of economic engines, every one of us is targeted as a consumer. We are pushed, prodded, programmed to purchase. In 2006, 9.2 billion credit card offers went out to America’s three hundred million people- more than thirty offers to every man, woman, and child! Shopping itself has become a leisure and lifestyle activity; malls are the new town centers. We’re immersed, cradle to grave, in "buy messages" that, with greater and greater psychological sophistication, misleadingly associate products we don’t need with feelings we deeply desire . Just check out the bumper stickers. "When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Go Shopping," trumpets an SUV in front of me. For those who enjoyed high school Latin, there’s "Veni, Vidi, Visa!" A largely female version is "New Shoes Chase the Blues," while men weigh in with "He Who Has the Most Toys When He Dies, Wins." What I’ve learned from a decade and a half of knowing, studying, working with, and writing about overshoppers-and from having been one myself-is that to change your behavior, you’ve got to change the way you feel about yourself and the way you go about meeting your authentic needs. It’s about understanding who you are, what you want, and what you really need. In general, having more things means enjoying life less. Acquiring and maintaining objects can so fill up our lives and environment that there’s little time or space to use what’s been acquired. What we consume ends up consuming us. In this blog, I’ll share what I know about why we overshop, how we can prevent it, and what tools, techniques and strategies are useful for eliminating it. I’ll also keep you updated on current research findings, relevant books, and other timely information for overshoppers and the people who love them. © 2009 Psychology Today. This RSS Feed is for personal non-commercial use only. If you are not reading this material in your news aggregator, the site you are looking at is guilty of copyright infringement. Please contact blogs@psychologytoday.com so we can take legal action immediately.

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Doctors and Drug Companies

February 6, 2009 in Blogs, Psychology Today by Psychology Today

Here’s a very interesting piece from the New York Times’ Review of Books: "Drug Companies & Doctors: A Story of Corruption." The basic story is that whereas only a few decades ago physicians generally lacked any lucrative ties to pharmaceutical companies, these days such conflicts of interest permeate the field, and debase it. Take the example of Dr. Charles B. Nemeroff, the psychiatry department chair at Emory University. He received a NIMH grant to study drugs made by GlaxoSmithKline AND at the same time he also got $500,000 in fees from GlaxoSmithKline. Talk about a conflict of interest! That’s not the only egregious case – there are many. As it turns out a recent survey found that about two thirds of academic medical centers hold equity interest in companies that sponsor research within the same institution… And here is another one: Of the 170 contributors to the most recent edition of the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), ninety-five had financial ties to drug companies. The top dogs aside, many physicians accept hefty salaries to consult for drug companies, and most accept pharmaceutical gifts like pens and free lunches. So the medical profession is teeming with conflicts of interest – but it doesn’t stop there. Look at politics, wall street, consulting – it is everywhere and I worry that unless we understand just how big this problem is, we are not going to deal with it.   © 2009 Psychology Today. This RSS Feed is for personal non-commercial use only. If you are not reading this material in your news aggregator, the site you are looking at is guilty of copyright infringement. Please contact blogs@psychologytoday.com so we can take legal action immediately.

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The danger of diagnosis

February 5, 2009 in Blogs, Psychology Today by Psychology Today

In my last post I talked about the value of self knowledge in the context of neuro-psychological testing. I said, "There is no downside to testing." Several readers took me to task for that, pointing out that there can be a downside . . . learning that you are officially "different" can be a crushing blow to the psyche. I have thought about that point quite a bit. Frankly, although I acknowledge what people are saying, it does not make a lot of sense to me. Why would increased self knowledge be such a blow? ADD, Asperger’s or autism are neurological differences. They are (generally) stable conditions, not diseases that progress. If you learn you are on the spectrum, it’s not a death sentence. You’re not going to become senile or lose your wits. So why is the knowledge of why you are different so hard to take? I think we grow up with certain notions of what conditions like "autistic" mean. We think, I’m glad that doesn’t apply to me. Then, all of a sudden, we are told it does apply. Our self image takes a hit. I can understand that, but I still believe that knowledge is power. We can’t change our lives for the better unless we understand what needs changing. Therefore, it is necessary to get beyond the shock of a diagnosis and move into understanding what it means, in terms of how we act, live and get along. To me, critical comments like Samwick’s (on my main blog) illustrate the danger of labels, which is rather a different issue that what I originally meant to write about. When I wrote my original post, I thought how much diagnosis meant to me by helping me understand exactly how my mind differed from other minds around me. For example, the simple insight that I miss nonverbal cues was life-changing. I seized upon the specific behavioral issues and set about constructing a better life. It worked. Words cannot express how much better my life is, thanks to the self-knowledge I’ve gained since learning about my Asperger’s. For some other people, it does not work that way because they become sidetracked by preconceived notions about "having a diagnosis." Instead of looking at their own specific issues, they look at broad statistics associated with the diagnosis. They see phrases like, 32% can’t live independently, or 66% never get married and have a family. They become trapped in generalities rather than focusing on specific issues to make their own lives better. They interpret those general statistics as a prediction for their own future, when it’s nothing of the sort. More specifically, they see their future as inexorably tied to every unfavorable broad statistics associated with their diagnosis. IN that sense, some DO see an autism diagnosis as a sentence to some kind of living death. They get swallowed up by diagnosis, forgetting the fact that they’ve lived their lives before and life goes on after. That is the danger of a label. Some people read what’s associated with a label, and make it self-fulfilling. They let go and become the label. That negative outcome can be reinforced by teachers and adults who say or think, He has a diagnosis of autism. We can’t expect too much of him. That is most assuredly not the way I have lived my life. For knowledge to have power in this context, it must be you-specific knowledge. You should not care what 66% of people do in this context. You should care that you have specific and identified strengths and weaknesses. For example, testing might show that you can read subtle emotion in voices, but you can’t pick signals up from faces alone. That’s an example of knowledge you can act on to make your life better. The fact is, you ARE that way. It’s not new, and you’re not getting worse. You are already living your life in context. Understanding can only help. Next, I’d like to address another important point . . . the risk of a wrong diagnosis. People say, What if I get an Asperger diagnosis when I really have ADD? Can’t that be harmful? That actually goes back to my comments on the dangers of labels. To me, the label does not matter. What matters are the specific insights into your own behaviors and identification of your personal strengths and weaknesses. There is no hazard to learning those things. I agree that diagnostic errors can be harmful, but that too is another subject. Don’t focus on the label. Focus on the behavioral insights. Ask yourself, does the result make sense? If it does, you are the way to improvement. If it doesn’t make sense, question the tester. Perhaps the results don’t mean what he thought. In the end, it is the specific behavioral insights that allow you to make a better life, not a broad brush label. People are not labels. Our personalities are made of countless eccentricities and aberrations, and it’s those I seek to understand. The power is in the details. There is no power in a broad brush label. Finally, there is another danger of diagnosis. That is with your medical record. What if you receive an autism diagnosis and it’s entered into your "official" record because you had the testing done by a professional who’s paid by a health insurer? It’s possible that you could be rated unfavorably for insurance, or even denied insurance later in life. What to do about that? The only answer I know is to pay for testing on your own, and make your own decision where the results are released. I would have some concerns about having any diagnostic information in my medical record because the evidence indicates insurers sometimes try and use those records against us for their own advantage. So the issue of "downsides to the diagnosis" is not as clear-cut as I originally portrayed. I apologize to those who felt my original post was misleading or incomplete. © 2009 Psychology Today. This RSS Feed is for personal non-commercial use only. 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Seven Questions for Daniel Amen

February 4, 2009 in Blogs, Psychology Today by Psychology Today

The Seven Questions project welcomes renowned brain expert and bestselling author Daniel Amen. You may have seen him preach his message of change on PBS , on bookshelves or at professional conferences. He’s not simply suggesting you can change your attitude or behavior, he actually believes you can change your brain. In an effort to illuminate the various clinical approaches to psychotherapy, this series asks the same seven questions to influential authors, theorists and policymakers. Dr. Amen, a revered and sometimes controversial figure in popular psychiatry is our honored guest today. Daniel G. Amen (MD, Oral Roberts University, 1982) is a psychiatrist, brain imaging specialist and the CEO and medical director of Amen Clinics , Inc. (ACI) in Newport Beach and Fairfield, California, Tacoma, Washington and Reston, Virginia. ACI has the world’s largest database of functional brain scans related to psychiatric medicine, now totaling nearly 50,000 scans, and the clinics have seen patients from 75 countries. Dr. Amen is an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at the University of California, Irvine School of Medicine. No stranger to the public sphere, Dr. Amen is one of the hardest working and most diverse MD’s out there, sharing his wisdom in nutrition columns , on the Men’s Health Q & A forum and even paid a visit to  The View  to discuss brain-based gender differences. Dr. Amen is the author of 22 books , including two New York Times bestsellers, Change Your Brain, Change Your Life and Magnificent Mind at Any Age . He has also written and produced two highly successful specials for public television. His method employs a balanced approach to treating mood, attention and relational problems. A review of Magnificent Mind  states: "Dr. Amen has rendered the growing trend of not treating the whole person, and of using prescription medicine as the first or only choice for mental and physical health, completely obsolete." Dr. Amen shares his opinions on psychotherapy with us today. As a psychiatrist who believes in : "using the least toxic, most effective treatments for our patients, … from natural supplements, medications, dietary interventions and targeted forms of psychotherapy," I knew he’d contribute some unique thoughts to the discussion. For example, his answer to Q3 is an important reminder that many psychological symptoms can have a biological etiology. Please enjoy Dr. Amen’s responses to the Seven Questions. Seven Questions for Daniel Amen: 1. How would you respond to a new client who asks: "What should I talk about?" His or her biggest concerns. A good history is so critical to the therapeutic process. It starts with someone’s concerns and then expands from there. I take a bio-psycho-social-spiritual approach to my patients and want them to talk to me about all of these issues. 2. What do clients find most difficult about the therapeutic process? Being confused as how to help themselves. Most people who see me want to be better, but the therapeutic process is so foreign to them. I think they need very clear direction on how to be most effective in using the process. 3. What mistakes do therapists make that hinder the therapeutic process? The biggest mistake I see is that they rarely consider the brain. I often say psychiatrists are the only medical specialists that never look at the organ they treat. How crazy is that! How do we know unless we look? We call people who have brain damage personality disordered? We call people with toxic exposure resistant to treatment? We think of depression as a singular illness, when it has many types, like chest pain. We need to do much better and it will start when we really take brain function seriously. 4. In your opinion, what is the ultimate goal of therapy? Better brain function. I am convinced therapy goes much faster, and patients are better able to do their own lives when you help your patients have better brain function. 5. What is the toughest part of being a therapist? Not having enough information to be helpful. 6. What is the most enjoyable or rewarding part of being a therapist? Helping people change their lives in a positive way. I have so many stories of how when a person’s brain is better that they become more effective, more loving, more passionate … that it brings me joy on a regular basis. 7. What is one pearl of wisdom you would offer clients about therapy? Think about the brain, how to improve it and you will be more effective in all you do. ——– My gratitude to International Psychoanalysis , The Library of Economics and Liberty , Introductory Psychology Resources , Psychlinks Online and the American Psychological Association for blogging about or linking to the Seven Questions. There’s even a European magazine named  Charaktery asking seven questions to influential Polish psychotherapists. My goal was to get people talking about psychotherapy so it’s nice to see interest from such diverse venues. © 2009 Psychology Today. This RSS Feed is for personal non-commercial use only. If you are not reading this material in your news aggregator, the site you are looking at is guilty of copyright infringement. Please contact blogs@psychologytoday.com so we can take legal action immediately.

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Antidepressants and Suicide: WHO Scientists Weigh In

February 4, 2009 in Blogs, Psychology Today by Psychology Today

On the question of new antidepressants and suicide, the evidence we have has been synthesized, and the results are in : the medications prevent suicides in adults, and especially in the elderly. For children and adolescents, we simply don’t know – and the gap in our knowledge has had dangerous effects. World Health Organization scientists based in Italy and Canada have re-analyzed data on over 200,000 patients with depression treated with serotonergic antidepressants, or SSRIs. With a pool this large, the researchers were able to look past ideation to actual attempts or completed suicides. The study found a strong protective effect for adults, including young adults, aged 18 to 25, and the elderly, over age 65. The medications decreased the risk of suicide by over 40 per cent in adults aged 18 to 64, and by over 50 per cent in older patients. These results are striking, especially in the light of earlier FDA summaries that found a neutral effect for non-elderly adults and a negative effect for young adults. But the FDA reports were based on research not designed to investigate suicidality, and the data were skewed conservatively, that is, in ways that might over-identify suicidal behavior. The new analysis is more clear-cut; it moves the line of high risk down from age 25 to age 18. What happens below age 18 is uncertain. Both the FDA summary and yesterday’s analysis found a marked increase in suicidality in depressed adolescents treated with SSRIs. (Unless I’m reading the data wrong, the risk for youth looks to be almost double on medication.) But as an accompanying editorial indicates, a large body of research points in the opposite direction. For instance, examining all youth suicides (42 deaths) over a five-year period, Danish pathologists found that none of the adolescents had been on SSRIs. In many countries, studies have found that low SSRI prescribing levels correlate with high youth suicide rates. Decreased SSRI prescribing since the FDA issued its "black box" warning has been associated with increased rates of suicide in adolescents. And some of the studies (including ones in the current WHO analysis) that have demonstrated an increase in suicidality are poorly controlled, so that the young people on SSRIs may be more seriously ill than those in the comparison group. We need to settle this issue: As regards risk of suicide, do SSRIs help or harm depressed adolescents? The editorial assessing the WHO study contains these disturbing sentences: "Alarmingly, concerns about the risk of suicide in youth have led not only to fewer SSRI prescriptions without substitution of alternative medications or psychotherapies, but also to a decrease in predicted rates of diagnosis of mood disorders. Since a decrease in the rate of true depression is improbable, clinicians may be avoiding making this diagnosis to avoid the dilemma of whether to prescribe antidepressants to children or adolescents." This worry was one that experts raised when the FDA was considering its action – that a warning, however carefully worded, might cost lives. (I should note that on balance I favored the black box warning.) As the editorial indicates, "in youth, suicide appears to occur most commonly among those with untreated mood disorders." My own impression – I discuss it in Against Depression – is that antidepressants simply work less well in children, and for reasons that accord well with the prevailing neurobiological theories of mood disorder. But when the medications do appear to help, are they dangerous? The new study again raises special worries about Paxil and also Effexor in young patients. Incidentally, two of the WHO researchers on the new study, Andrea Cipriani and Corrado Barbui, were also authors of the widely publicized recent summary analysis that rated the relative merits of antidepressants. As in the prior report, in the new one Zoloft looks especially safe, at least in adults. © 2009 Psychology Today. This RSS Feed is for personal non-commercial use only. If you are not reading this material in your news aggregator, the site you are looking at is guilty of copyright infringement. Please contact blogs@psychologytoday.com so we can take legal action immediately.

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NeuroPod on pheromones, neural nets, fMRI and sleep

February 4, 2009 in Blogs, Mind Hacks by Vaughan

The latest Nature Neuropod neuroscience podcast has just hit the net, with a great selection of discussions and interviews covering everything from pheromones and sexual attraction to the impact of poor quality sleep on memory. This final section on an intriguing and recently published study found that even mild disturbance that didn’t wake the sleeper but knocked them out of deeper sleeper into the shallower sleep stages could still disrupt the retention of material learned the previous day. However, as I am remarkably tired myself I need as much deep sleep as I can get, so I shall leave the rest of the podcast as a voyage of discovery. Enjoy! Link to Neuropod home page with audio. mp3 of latest podcast.

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Men Who Fake Orgasms

February 1, 2009 in Blogs, Psychology Today by Psychology Today

There may not be anything all that unusual about women faking orgasms. But what about men? It turns out some men vie for Oscars in the bedroom too. Why would a man need to fake an orgasm? To understand, it may be helpful to look at the reasons women give for doing so. One of the best discourses on this topic, from the "Show me" School rather than the dry medical literature, is the scene from the classic movie When Harry Met Sally, in which actors Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal are sitting in a restaurant discussing Crystal’s certainty that no woman has ever faked an orgasm with him. "How do you know?" asks Meg Ryan. "Most women have faked it at one time or another." She then proceeds to mimic an orgasm, complete with moans and shrieks, right at their table. When she is done, a middle-aged woman sitting nearby says to the waiter, "I’ll have what she’s having." Why do women fake orgasms? A female colleague suggests "it’s just a little white lie." Women, she explains, don’t always experience orgasms with sex, but men may be disappointed if she doesn’t have one. Faking an orgasm makes the guy feel he’s done a good job as a lover, and also allows the activity to come to an end, which can be particularly useful with a partner determined to prove his manly mettle. So, what does this have to do with guys? Aren’t men always able to have an orgasm? After all, the single most common sexual dysfunction among men is that they come too quickly, with anywhere from 10-30% of men reporting premature or rapid ejaculation in various studies. Yet not all men are alike, and some men may actually be unable to reach The Promised Land. Ever. Big problem. A more complicated story was provided by Jim (real names not used), a 33 year old software engineer who had been married for a little more than one year. Jim was happy in his marriage to Gloria, and the sex was fine, but there was a catch- he just couldn’t achieve an orgasm during intercourse. He had no trouble having an orgasm with masturbation, mind you. It was only a problem during sex. Neither Jim nor Gloria had been very active sexually prior to their marriage, leaving them with little to compare this to. At first Gloria considered Jim’s inability to climax "A little weird," but soon she began to doubt her own feminine skills and started to ask Jim, "Am I doing it wrong?" and "You don’t find me sexy, do you?" The pressure mounted (!), and soon Jim hit upon a solution- he started faking his own orgasm. This seemed to work, as Gloria seemed pleased with their sex life. Yet Jim still didn’t understand what was happening to him. There can be a number of reasons why men may have a difficult time achieving an orgasm during intercourse. Medications, particularly the SSRI antidepressants, are the most common cause. Neurologic conditions and diabetes can contribute, by decreasing genital sensation. And sometimes it’s psychological. I had a patient once who was ambivalent about having children. Although he had nodded assent when his wife asked "So, you agree it’s ok if I stop taking my birth control pills?" he really didn’t feel prepared to take the giant leap of fatherhood. No wonder he withheld his magic seed. In Jim’s case, it turned out that his technique of achieving orgasm during masturbation was to lie prone and rub his body against the bed, something he’d learned as a twelve-year old. As pointed out by my colleague, Dr. Michael Perelman, some masturbatory practices, such as Jim’s, bear little resemblance to the stimulation achieved during actual intercourse. This seemed to be Jim’s problem. The goal of therapy in these men is a hands-on approach ( of course!) in which the men re-train the penis so that they can learn to have an orgasm with stimulation that is more like sex. Eventually, men like Jim should be able to have an orgasm from sex itself. I’ve referred Jim to an experienced sex therapist, and I hear he’s making good progress. In the meantime, he enjoys sex with his wife, but continues to fake orgasms. Is it OK for Jim to do this?  Is it really any different than a woman faking an orgasm, other than the missing "evidence" (more on that upcoming in Part 2)?   Whether it’s right or wrong is hard for me to say, but I do find Jim’s motivations instructive. Jim fakes orgasms to make his wife feel okay about their sex life, and her own lovemaking skills.  It really provides a different perspective on men, doesn’t it? Who says guys are just unfeeling louts who care only about themselves?   © 2009 Psychology Today. This RSS Feed is for personal non-commercial use only. If you are not reading this material in your news aggregator, the site you are looking at is guilty of copyright infringement. Please contact blogs@psychologytoday.com so we can take legal action immediately.

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Self-Deception, Over-Confidence and Disposable Men: A Risky Proposition

February 1, 2009 in Blogs, Psychology Today by Psychology Today

In my last post, I brought up the topic of cognitive biases-which are a fancy way of describing our ability to lie to ourselves. Specifically, I was examining the case of quarterback Kurt Warner. Warner displayed a bias known as anchoring-meaning our tendency to make critical decisions based on one lone piece of information (a frequent example of this bias is people who buy used cars after reading the odometer but while ignoring all other sources of information). Warner ‘s anchor was that ‘he was a more accurate quarterback than Brett Farve. Unfortunately, at the time he reached this conclusion, he had no pro starts and only a year of college ball under his belt. Meanwhile Farve was one year away from winning his first Superbowl and his first MVP award. And therein lies the rub. Warner’s anchor was fictive, as was his resulting over-confidence. But this over-confidence served its purpose. Warner’s cognitive bias became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Eventually, Warner become a more accurate passer than Farve (which helps explain why the Arizona Cardinals will today play in the Superbowl). The question I raised but did not answer was how was it that Warner’s bias bore fruit based, as it was, on completely erroneous information. Turns out this is exactly how biases are supposed to work-especially in men. Roy Baumeister has argued that men are more evolutionarily dispensable than women. If you were to cut the world’s male population in half, the only real effect this would have on our species-provided we could overcome our predilections against bigamy- is that those men left alive would end up having even more sex. Cut the world’s population of women in half and the results are a disaster. This shows up in evolution as well. Since men are evolutionarily dispensable, nature has a tendency to experiment more with them. This explains why there are far more male geniuses and male retards than female. It also explains why, historically-and only until the advent of the airplane and the 20th century discovery of the military worth of civilian targets-men went off to fight wars and women stayed at home. This also effects personality. Historically, 80 percent of all women procreate and only 40 percent of all men do. Baumeister contends that the men who get lucky are the ones with greater visibility. Men have to stand out to attract women-which is why they’re built to take risks. In 1988 Daly and Wilson added to this argument when they realized that risk taking both increased men’s access to resources and their access to mating opportunities-which means not only are men built for risk, but it’s also sexually selected character trait. Evolutionary psychologists use this to explain why 83 percent of all arrests for violent crime (and 89.2 percent of all arrests for murder) are men. Cognitive psychologists argue that the urge to take risks needs to be based on something and in many cases this something is the result of our biases. As my fellow blogger and MIT’s Director of the Center for Advanced Hindsight (maybe the best institutional name around) recently pointed out in a conversation: "Realism can be over-rated. And over-confidence can often be a great thing. Look at the information surrounding restaurants. All the data shows that most fail, but entrepreneurs ignore this repeatedly. Their biases are doing exactly what they’re supposed to do-convincing them to bet it all even when they shouldn’t." Warner’s success in football was based on exactly this type of self-deception. And in his case too, that deception paid big dividends. Which is ultimately why we have these biases in the first place-because evolution always bets the long shot.         © 2009 Psychology Today. This RSS Feed is for personal non-commercial use only. If you are not reading this material in your news aggregator, the site you are looking at is guilty of copyright infringement. Please contact blogs@psychologytoday.com so we can take legal action immediately.

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Self-Deception, Over-Confidence and Disposable Men: A Risky Proposition